The book Who Moved My Cheese? it is a fable about change and what can happen if you resist it. Change is healthy, the book tells us, and is supposed to happen for you to evolve and grow.
The question of whether or not you are playing out an opportunity with persistence or hanging onto something that needs to be let go of depends on how the situation is evolving from when you initially started. At the start of any ripe opportunity everyone is filled with enthusiasm and optimism going forth into an endeavour. The harsh realities of life can burst your bubble and you find yourself checking out what is next to come.
Sometimes the lessons of the experience are harsh and sometimes more subtle.
ASSESS THE OPPORTUNITY COST: IS IT STILL WORTH IT?
What you would be doing if you aren’t where you are right now? If you answered "nothing," then great! Sounds like you are on the right path keep going.
But if you are not getting the results you seek after giving it a fair shot, it may be time to assess what kind of other opportunities you are missing out on. Time is a precious commodity you can never get back. If you are working long hours or trying to get a company off the ground, you can lose your balance and in turn your connection with people in your life and reality in general.
When I launched my first consulting firm, my partner and I disappeared for a year and a half. Soon after we mutually decided that we didn’t wish to pursue our company anymore despite things working out, we embraced a change—new start simultaneously—and are still best friends. Endings can be peaceful and ideal for all parties.
YOUR MOTIVATION IS GONE
The adrenaline and passion you had when you first started in gone. Sometimes you can forget that not everything is going to work out. Results have slowed down or you still aren’t getting anywhere.
Sometimes determination and patience are worth it—and sometimes they're not. Knowing when to assess that properly are ongoing skills to develop in life. If you have negative thoughts that aren’t going away then it is time question what you are hanging on to still adds value to your life.
Not trying to be pessimistic, but I have left at the right time and also stayed longer than I should have on a few occasions—and now will detect the warning signs earlier.
KEEP YOUR SUPPORT NETWORK STRONG
When you are going through a transition it is usually hard initially. It is important to have good friends and support to remind you that what you are doing is a good idea.
Good friends will accept the broken record of your indecision until you are ready to take action. Not all projects are going to finish. Time is a precious commodity that you can never get back, knowing when to pull the pin when it clearly isn’t going to happen over the long run help you to make strategic decisions with your career and life.
You will know when you settle into something else that you made the right choice and may question what took you so darn long to just do it already.
"If you are brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello." – Paulo Coelho